Thursday, April 3, 2014


In honor of this pastel rainbow harness dress's semi-transparent fabric I'll do a little demystifying myself about an annoying trend I've noticed among my peers. It's become a fad obsession, perhaps as a pendulum reaction to accusations of millennial narcissism but serving as no counterexample of it, to claim that it is one's life goal and central focus to "achieve modesty." 

It's already possessive and material to think of 'modesty' as a 'thing' that can be 'achieved.' But what's more irritating about lusting after it is the inherently self-aggrandizing assumption that one is capable of performing morality with such consistency that the title would feel earned. It's that intent to earn or deserve modesty that entails the autoperforation of it . Humility is culturally and spiritually revered, but consideration of it as the most ultimate virtue means nothing when in practice we pay more attention to the egos that perform it than to the characteristics of it themselves. To publicly aspire to possess the most respected virtue seems beyond a moderate estimation of one's abilities. It necessitates the existence of an intended quest for a righteous reputation, thus fundamentally inverting the conditions essential to modesty. To consider reputation is to prioritize (or even so little as acknowledge) an egotistical "image." Efforts to maximize the positive reactions associated with said image also fundamentally block essential conditions. Basically, if one intends to be modest, one cannot be modest, because a modest person cannot even be cognizant of the relevance of the description in relation to themselves. Modest behavior includes selfless efforts to develop trusting relationships for the benefit of others, without regard for the fate of the intending individual.

The actual development of trust should matter more to us than the advantages that come with being well-known as a trustworthy, modest person. I think that as soon as we externalize our 'selves' and attempt to assign to them a preferable judgment from the assumed perspective of 'others' (as if they are not intrinsic parts of our selves), we undo the possibility of modesty and render it an absolutely impossible paradox. It can only be achieved when it is genuinely not desired because reputation is not selfishly considered. 

Ironic that all of this coming from the mouth (fingers) of someone who will proceed to post 8 photos of their privileged body after this text, but hey. The author is dead so leave me out of this. ^_^

ZeroUV sunglasses, UNIF harness dress, vintage heels

Everything is infinite,

Bebe Zeva


  1. so in love with this dress

  2. Beautiful, that dress is unreal!!!! xx

  3. Selflessness has transcended through the ages of time, and I think the most controversial aspect of what is considered virtue is the element of sacrifice. I think the Pope Gregorys of the 400's through the 1800's basically allocated the seven Heavenly Virtues and seven Deadly Sins as if they were absolute truth, but they are really altruistic guidelines to formulate a desired subconscious outcome. Desire be desire go. Modesty comes naturally to those who are consistently serving others. There's another beauty that comes with knowing how to make things come to oneself. Laws of attraction perhaps, who knows.

    This dress is absolutely gorgeous by the way. Cute shades, nice heels, lovely bracelet, it's girly in the cutest way! Sacredly feminine. You are superb dudette. Perfect style!

  4. Loving this! And I think modesty to an extent is a good trait but we are laught to care for others and not care for out own feelings, to not appreciate our own beauty and to be ''modest'' is to think yourself ugly or unworthy of things and I think that's really wrong. We should be able to appreciate ourselves and others <3

    The Quirky Queer

  5. Wow awesome dress ! I love it !